Why are we so repulsed by how these women look?

HAVE you heard Dolly Parton described as looking like a ''melted sex
doll'' lately? How about Pamela Anderson as ''a plastic bush pig'' or
Cher ''slutty and trashy''?
Nope. Thankfully neither have I, which is strange considering
disparaging terms like these are pretty well all I have heard when the
topic of two other women who admit to cosmetic surgery, Vernesa and
Sophie from Channel Ten's
The Shire, comes up.
I had expected to hear disparaging remarks about the show
itself, and will happily ''hell yeah'' any and all criticism aimed at
its malicious exploiters (sorry, legal just informed me the official
term is producers). The way they have edited and scripted a group of
fame-ravenous Gen Y-ers into resembling life forms nudging amoebas on
the Darwinian scale for our smug amusement is worthy of some spirited
debate if not outright scorn.
But, as seems to be the case on social media especially, it
has become sport to blame the shiny lure for scaring off the fish,
rather than the hand that wields the rod. And, within this fishing
analogy, Vernesa and Sophie have come off smelling like last week's bait
in a heatwave.
Now, I should probably clarify here that I have not watched a complete episode of
The Shire
because I have a life, a modicum of taste and even less tolerance.
What I did see did left me with the impression that these two women are
not very smart - as in George Bush with a lobotomy stupid - or at least
have been edited to appear so. And that alone made me queasy enough to
reach for the remote.
But I'm not here to debate whether these girls would make it
in to Mensa, or to endorse their penchant for plastic surgery,
synthetic nails, hair extensions and fake tans the colour of ripe
potting mix. I'm actually here to ask why we, as a nation, seem so
repulsed by these women's appearance in the first place? Why are these
girls pushing people's (especially, it must be said, females') buttons?
Most of us don't have to swallow bile when we see a Goth in
their gloomy noir glory. We don't gag at ferals eschewing artifice
altogether. People covered in tattoos aren't loathed, nor those who have
chosen to resemble pincushions with piercings. We don't spurn all
those women in the public eye with shiny foreheads, or run in disgust
from Bert Newton's bad rug. Fake boobs are everywhere, as are fake tans
and pumped-up lips.
So what is it about the chosen aesthetic of
The Shire girls that is causing us to collectively froth at the mouth with contempt?
''The overreaction I'm seeing from these haters indicates
something is going on within their subconscious that perhaps should be
looked at,'' explains psychologist Meredith Fuller, author of
Working with Mean Girls.
''It tells me there could be unresolved material - messages
or experiences from long ago - that observing these women are
re-triggering somehow. Perhaps it is provoking a part of us that we
might secretly long for, and this is how we manage it.''
Fuller says it is not just the girls' appearance that is so
provoking, but the message it sends. ''When you think about basic
archetypes of women, there's the young girl, the mother, the crone and
the more butch warrior. This look is like the beautiful maiden
archetype, the most desired and idealised female image with its
Barbie-like connotations.
''But I don't believe these girls are changing themselves for
men,'' Fuller told me. ''Talk to men and they usually say they don't
like that huge made-up look or fake breasts. I think these girls are
just delighting in looking how they want. They're saying 'it's my body,
my money and my choice'. This sense of liberation can challenge those of
us who don't share it or feel they can achieve the same in their own
lives.''
Fuller points out it is not so much the fact that these girls
have had surgery that is riling so many, but that the procedures are
not fitting in with the boundaries approved by popular culture.
''We live in youth-oriented society where we don't like to
grow old,'' she says. ''As such, society has come up with a formula for
acceptable breasts, lips, bums and noses that all look the same - just
look at Hollywood celebrities.
''These overtly feminised girls are consciously making a
decision to stand out from the pack. These girls are not being forced to
do anything. They are actively involved in choosing how they want to
look - which breasts, which nose, what size breasts.
''Isn't that the point of everything women have been fighting
for, to know and own all the parts of ourselves we want to? So, when
women are so vitriolic about other women making an active choice to do
that, are they saying they don't feel they have a choice or are too
scared themselves?''
Some surveys suggest that more than 90 per cent of women
today would change their bodies if they could afford to. Some women, of
course, will never be happy with their body, no matter what they do or
how much they diet. But Fuller says the women from
The Shire appear ''very happy with what they've done and how they look''.
Confession time here: I'm not personally fond of the Vernesa
and Sophie look. In fact, my guiltiest pleasure at the moment is another
TV show of dubious merit, Channel 11's
Snog, Marry, Avoid?,
where women with a love of ''fakery'' are given a make-under. The result
is usually remarkable, turning painted ladies back in to natural
beauties I can relate to. But I also can't help but feel the girls on
Snog, Marry, Avoid?
get stripped of individuality in the make-under process, homogenised
to fit within the safe, bland and narrow confines of society's
acceptable (and let's face it, often unachievable) boundaries du jour.
As another lady with a more-is-more attitude to her
appearance, Dolly Parton, proudly declares, ''It takes a lot of money to
look this cheap'' - and it seems Vernesa and Sophie sing from Dolly's
songbook. And to others who don't, I say, turn down the volume or just
stop listening altogether. Some of us are country, some of us are
rock'n'roll and others easy listening. Viva la difference!
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